What’s getting in the way of you being kind to yourself?



Too busy being the perfect parent, friend, sister or brother, son or daughter, work colleague, employee, boss…?

Too busy taking care of others rather than yourself?

Your boundaries slowly slipping as you take on far too much to please others?

And yet you still manage to find time to feel bad that you’re feeling bad.



You, yourself, as much as any body in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.


I’m so tired of seeing people beat themselves up, criticise themselves, or neglect themselves, body, mind and soul.

Of watching them burnout and exhaust themselves.

Hiding the sadness they feel inside because they don’t have time to experiment with what will bring them joy.

I want to live in a world where everyone takes care of themselves.

Where we practise Self-Care: understanding our own needs, looking after ourselves and caring for our own wellbeing.

Where we remember to put our own life-jacket on first before attending to those around us.

Where we’re not selfish, but we take care of our selves.

Where we don’t feel guilty for putting ourselves first once in a while.
Because when we practise Self-Care, and look after ourselves as much as we would anyone else, we have an inner radiance, joy, and fulfillment.

Because when we take care of our selves, we ultimately have even more to give to the world around us.

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Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion. With these, you can handle anything.

Jack Kornfield

You can’t give of yourself when there’s nothing there.

I kept going when I was running on empty. And I suffered for it. Left with a chronic pain condition after a car accident, and still working a 70-hour week, I didn’t take care of myself. My health suffered, and although I still worked to high quality and quantity, my passion for my work suffered.

Until I remembered that only I was responsible for me.

It wasn’t my boss’s responsibility to look after me.

Nor my friends’.

Nor my family’s.

It was mine.

If I wanted to inspire others, to lead others, even to love others fully, I needed to be whole, complete and healthy inside and out.

My first priority needed to be me.

I started with small pleasures: enjoying a high-quality cup of coffee, taking a nap, reading a guilty-pleasure romance novel – and not feeling guilty.

I drew on my experience as a psychologist and coach, delving into further research.

How else could I look after myself? How could I nurture all that I am? Be kind to myself? What did Psychology say? Philosophy? Great thinkers? My own experience? I built up a list of ideas, links to research and articles, and experimented with ideas myself.

I developed a better and deeper understanding of what the unique mix of factors were that helped me to live a rich and deeply satisfying life.

I got to know myself, body, mind and soul. And learned to love all parts of me.

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others; you need to accept yourself.

Thich Nhat Hanh

I want to share this amazing knowledge and experience with you.

I want you to shine. To glow. To sparkle.

To live vivaciously, creatively, with joy and vitality.

But you can’t do that if you’re not taking care of yourself. And that includes all aspects of you – physical, mental, emotional, even spiritual.

Do you take care of yourself?

Do you even know how to?

And I don’t just mean a bubble bath and a glass of wine (though I’m happy to include them!). Dark chocolate and 10 minutes with a Nora Roberts or James Patterson novel probably isn’t going to cut it when the love of your life’s just broken up with you.



Loving what you do – mistakes and all

Being your own best friend

Stepping out of your own way

Being at peace with who you are

Treating your body as the precious gift it is

Spending time with yourself



Comfort in your own skin

Energy and effervescence

A greater sense of self

Improved health and well-being

Respect for your own boundaries

An understanding of your own needs

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Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to be gentle with others.

Lama Yesh

Introducing The Complete Self-Care Toolkit

I’m so excited to share The Complete Self-Care Toolkit with you.

What is it?

A warm duvet on a cold-night; a mug of hot chocolate in front of the fire; a hug from a friend at just the right time.

The Toolkit’s there to help you to treat yourself as well as you treat others. To help you understand what you need. To help you help yourself.

60 Self-Care ideas that will give you all the tools you need to nourish yourself to be the very best version of you.

The Nitty Gritty

I’ve created The Complete Self-Care Toolkit as a self-service product so you can buy it and dive straight in. It includes:

  • Get Started Guide
  • The 10 Self-Care Basics
  • 15 Ideas to Be Brilliant to Your Body
  • 23 Ideas to Be Kind to Your Mind
  • 12 Counterintuitive Self-Care Ideas
  • Checklist
  • Weekly Tracker

This comprehensive Toolkit will make sure that you pay attention to all aspects of Self-Care. That you don’t concentrate on an area where you’re already taking care of yourself (Breathe Deeper) whilst neglecting others (Play Games).

There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by my self.

Brian Andreas

What The Complete Self-Care Toolkit covers

The Toolkit contains four areas with 60 straightforward and practical ideas between them.

Each Self-Care idea in the Toolkit follows the same structure: a short introduction to the idea itself; four warning signs which will let you know if this is a priority Self-Care idea for you; one or two ideas on putting it into practice; and a ‘Further Study’ section if you want to go more deeply into the idea.

Self-Care Basics

The foundations of Self-Care, this section covers 10 key strategies, actions and ideas which probably won’t be new to you – but of course, just because you know you should be putting them into practice, doesn’t mean you are.

Even if you’ve done the 10-Day Self-Care Basics Challenge (which covers these) you should review the Basics as a set and make sure you’ve got them all covered. If you’re not taking care of the Basics, you’re not taking care of yourself.

Be Brilliant to Your Body

The self-care strategies, ideas and actions in this section will teach you ways to nurture your physical body, touching on topics such as your breath, your senses, what you wear and what you touch. Show your body the gratitude it deserves.

Be Kind to Your Mind

Mind and body are linked, but covering them separately will help you to direct your focus. The self-care ideas here will teach you ways to manage your mental and emotional self, touching on topics as broad as meditation, laughter, forgiveness and music.

All have something to contribute to the way you nurture, cultivate and support your mind.

Counter-Intuitive Self-Care

This set of ideas covers those you might not even realise will help you look after yourself, let alone put into action. The ideas that are often contrary to common sense or intuition.

Free Bonus Material

Right now, included as part of the price for The Complete Self-Care Toolkit, I have a special launch bonus:

Creating Space for Self-Care: When and How to Say No

This nine-page set of tips will help you deal with one of the most common problems we all have with including better Self-Care in our lives – boundary-setting. Making sure we have the time and the space to spend on ourselves, rather than always being the caregiver ourselves. Dealing with the guilt that comes with saying no to someone else in order to put your own needs first.

This beautifully designed PDF contains practical tips you can start using immediately, at work and in your personal life.

Buy The Complete Self-Care Toolkit right now and get this great bonus material for free.

Brene Brown

Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.

Brene Brown

Special Launch Price For First 100 Customers

The Complete Self-Care Toolkit will retail at $97.

But I’m setting a special launch price for my first 100 customers of just $47.

That includes the Bonus Material ‘Creating Space for Self-Care: When and How to Say No’

This price won’t be around for long – Click the ‘Buy Now’ button below to make sure you don’t miss out on this great offer.

Because you are responsible for you.

Working with this course will give you an entire Toolkit of strategies to help you deal with your tiredness, burnout, lack of joy and vitality, and neglect of yourself.

The ideas and solutions it contains have been part of transforming my own life from a burnt-out consultant in London to a vibrant writer and blogger living and working internationally, as well as changing the lives of many others.

Access to the ideas will give you the ability to make those changes and add a little sparkle to your world.

Click the ‘Buy now’ button below to make sure you get The Complete Self-Care Toolkit at the special launch price along with the bonus material.

You’ll have everything you need to start providing yourself with all the nourishment you need to blossom.

Be kind to yourself.

With love,
Ellen x

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Anais Nin

My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws, and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.

Anais Nin

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is the Toolkit for?

You need this if you:
• Are tired all the time
• Are running on empty
• Never live up to your own standards
• Are constantly self-critical
• Have a negative relationship with your body

How do I use the Toolkit?

The Toolkit includes a‘Get Started Guide’ which makes some suggestions about how you can approach the ideas in the Self-Care Toolkit, but the best way is to identify a small number of ideas to work on each week, and really go deep into them, giving yourself enough time to truly engage with them. The Weekly Tracker can track your progress and experiments over a week, and you can use the Checklist to keep an overview of what you’ve tried so far. But it’s completely self-directed, so you can use the materials any way you please.

What’s the format of the Toolkit?

The Complete Self-Care Toolkit is a digital toolkit of PDFs that includes:

• Get Started Guide
• The 10 Self-Care Basics
• 15 Ideas to Be Brilliant to Your Body
• 23 Ideas to Be Kind to Your Mind
• 12 Counter-intuitive Self-Care Ideas
• Checklist: Diagnosing your Critical Self-Care areas
• Self-Care Weekly Tracker

What do I need?

The Toolkit describes each idea in full, but there are plenty of links to further resources which you can explore if you have access to the internet. I’ve tried to keep the need for other resources as limited as possible, but sometimes I’ve made suggestions where you might want to draw on other materials.

I’d also suggest you keep a Self-Care Journal, which can be on the computer or as a hard copy, whatever suits you.

What happens when I buy?

You’ll be able to download the materials, and you can start working with them straight away.

How much time will each of the ideas in the Toolkit take?

That’s completely up to you. Some of the ideas – such as ‘Sleep’ – are habits to be cultivated for life, others like the ‘Three-minute Stop’ might be experiments you try a few times and decide whether or not to carry on with depending on how they work for you. There’s enough material to last you for a few months, or even a year if you decide to work with all the suggestions in ‘Further Study’.

What’s your experience in this area?

I’m a Chartered Occupational Psychologist and Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society, and I’ve been working with clients from individuals to leadership teams for the last 13 years, supporting them in their personal and professional development. I’ve done that globally, working with clients in Europe, SE Asia and the Middle East.

I’m an idea magpie, and I’ve been collecting self-care ideas for many years as part of my own development around the area and to support my clients and those I’ve managed and mentored. The Toolkit shares stories from real life as well as from psychological and other research to make sure that each idea will really contribute and add value to your life.

What happens if I’m not satisfied with The Complete Self-Care Toolkit?

I know that using the tools and strategies in this Toolkit can revitalise your life. But I want to give you peace of mind before you purchase. So I’m offering a full refund within 30 days if you’re not satisfied with the product. Just email me within 30 days of purchase at with your request and the reasons that the product didn’t work for you, and I’ll fully refund your money.

The Toolkit’s price is in dollars, but I want to buy in Pounds / Euros /etc. Is that possible?

Definitely! Your currency will be automatically converted when you check out. This currency converter will help you check the current exchange rate.

How do I buy?

All you need to do is click on the ‘The Complete Self-Care Toolkit: Buy Now’ button, and you’ll be taken through to to the checkout, where you can pay using Paypal or credit card.

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Disclaimer: Whilst I think that this Toolkit can make a positive difference in most people’s lives, I am not a doctor. I’m writing from personal experience and as a psychologist, and the information in this Toolkit should not be used as medical advice. Seek advice from your doctor before changing your diet or exercise routine. Please see other terms of use here.