Do you hear it? That voice in your head that’s putting you down? Criticizing you? Telling you you’re not good enough? It’s worse than your parents at their most critical, and that teacher who never stopped putting you down, combined in one nightmare voice. And it Just. Won’t. Stop. Not All Self-Talk Is Bad Everyone has… Read more

We can remind ourselves until we’re blue in the face that we need to be kind to ourselves, be gentle to ourselves, be forgiving to ourselves, but sometimes we need to hear it from another source. Just like we’re better able to share our compassion with others rather than ourselves, while we find it much harder… Read more

Your cheeks burn and your body tingles. There’s a drunken butterfly performing cartwheels in your stomach. You did something which in your head, looms so large, so awful, so terrible, that the shame is all-encompassing. You’re convinced that if anyone ever found out, the mortification and disgrace would be too much for you to bear. Because… Read more

I talk a lot about self-care. About the need to be self-compassionate, and the benefits of nurturing, rather than criticising, yourself. Psychologist and psychotherapist Dr Pauline Clance defines self-care as “taking care of the whole person, attending to your wants and needs within the context of your life.” It’s a broad definition, and for many of… Read more

Do you know when you need more self-care? When it’s time to be more compassionate? When your body, mind and soul need a little TLC? You might be one of those people tuned into yourself, able to connect easily to your state of mind, feelings and health, but not everyone finds this easy. We all get… Read more

Ever wondered how the experts do it? How they manage busy lives, successful relationships, deep friendships and fulfilling work, and still seem to glow from the inside out? How they have such great self-care strategies? I’m afraid I’m going to burst that bubble right now. They don’t. The ‘experts’ – me included – struggle with this… Read more

This week sees the launch of my free interview series ‘The Overachiever’s Survival Guide‘, a series of audio and written interviews from expert Bloggers, Psychologists and Coaches on how they keep themselves happy, healthy and sane. The 16 interviews are packed with great advice, inspiration and resources, and I think you’re going to love them! Most… Read more

You know how it is. You have a million things to do. Your inbox is filling up, and every time you get rid of one email, another five come in. You have several pressing decisions to make, and you forgot you said yes to helping a friend out with something. What’s to do?! I feel your… Read more

Ever had that moment when someone says something, and a wave of white-hot emotion floods your body? You feel angry, upset or outraged. Sad, lost or afraid. Whatever the emotion is, it’s strong. Perhaps overpowering. And the time between the event and your reaction is minimal. The other day, I opened an email from a friend… Read more